Lately, I’ve experienced a string of perfect timing instances. Tonight I experienced one more.
Let’s just say that I had a less-than-great day at work today. I’ll go ahead and chalk it up to a case of the Mondays.
From mid-afternoon until about now (8:30pm) I’ve been carrying a frustration. I vented, played loud music all the way home from work, gave a good scream in my car and even rode that adrenaline high through a workout that seemed to zip by with no effort.
Thoughts of opening a bottle of wine crossed my mind, but I have some work I need to do tonight. So wine is out of the question. Instead, I sat down in front of my computer to unwind and distract myself by listening to a podcast while I mindlessly play Bejeweled. I settled on listening to the last remaining podcast I have yet to hear from PBS’s Bill Moyers on Faith & Reason featuring a discussion with Buddhist nun, Pema Chödrön.
Wow. Unreal. I’m taken by the content and how appropriate it is in relation to my Monday frustrations. She discusses how easy it is to get “hooked” by suffering and allow it to start a chain reaction. So true!
“…you can actually, if you come to your senses anywhere in the chain reaction you can interrupt it. But it gets harder and harder ’cause you become more on automatic pilot. And it’s like an undertow. It’s very seductive.”
“…generally speaking, nobody wants to suffer. But our means of going about getting happy are not in sync with our desire to not suffer. A basic Buddhist teaching is that sentient beings, none of them want to suffer. But their way of going about getting happy escalates the suffering. So yelling when you’re angry would be an example.”
“That urge to keep doing, as the Buddha would say, where your desire for satisfaction and happiness are not in sync with the methods you go about using. And then you could say the consequences, you know, of war and prejudice and so forth, they all come from that moment of the urge to do the same thing you’ve already done.”
“…if you work with your mind, instead of trying to change everything on the outside, that’s how your temper will cool down.”
And so, I’m feeling a little more open and grounded this evening. Hearing that message is exactly what I needed. The timing was perfect.